What does being a loser mean? If you think you are losing out then here is what I know about you.
You have given up on your life, you don’t enjoy the company of people whom you once loved. You have no purpose, no zeal to work. You are demotivated and don’t want to do anything.
If you fit into the description, then it’s the time for you to worry. I know you are already worried.
But here is a piece of good news for you, it may seem to you that there is no getting out of the situation and you can’t remember the last time you were happy. But there is a way, there is always a way. Remember you were not always like this.
The question that is often asked how to not be a loser? How to get yourself motivated? How do you get to the top? How do you get people to remember you?
To stop being loser you must trace the curve of your life and figure out what went wrong.
How you became what you are right now, drained out of motivation and zeal.
There can be several reasons for it
- Maybe you worked very hard for that job or competition, but you could not make it. Now you are frustrated and angry, you declare yourself loser. After all you failed even after working so hard.
- Maybe you were over ambitious and tried to be great at everything, and nothing worked out and now you don’t want to do anything. You have failed so many times that you don’t think you can succeed.
- Or you are doing something you hate, but have to do. Maybe because your parents made the choice. Or you picked up the job because there was no other available. No wonder you are bad at it. It is easily understandable. But it becomes difficult when everybody else starts reminding you of your sloppiness and failure. You are overwhelmed and even though there is clear reason for why you are not good at what you do, you start losing your confidence and self-respect.
- Maybe you are lazy, you wanted to learn singing, God! It was tough. Then you wanted to learn photography, didn’t do it either. And so on, and now the list of what you could not do is so long that you are shit scared.
- Maybe you were having this beautiful relationship, that person was so special that you wanted to spend every moment of life with him. But he broke up with you. It was an emotional turmoil and threw you into depression and there seems no way out.
- You keep comparing yourself with highly successful people unaware of there failures and hard work prior to success, and feel zealous. You are envious to what God has bestowed upon them. No wonder it will take away all your confidence. You have a personality who will look at half empty glass, rather than half filled.
There is a step by step method to get out of this life-draining situation.
First of all know that you are in this situation, and no one else is responsible for it but you.
Start focusing on what you have instead of what you don’t have.
You don’t realize but you have a lot of gifts. You have health, you have loving people around you to support you. You have your experiences.
Now use all you have to achieve what you want to. Of course you will have to work hard for it. And you will fail a few times, but don’t get upset.
Whoever is a winner has worked real hard to be so. And has sack of failures way heavier than you. So get up.
You want to be a winner, you do the same. Put the sack of failures on your shoulders as an experience and carry it forward to success.
The problem is we take other’s success and their routines and things for granted. We think it is all the matter of support, money, and being surrounded by good people. But that’s not the case.
HOW TO NOT TAKE THINGS FOR GRANTED
This is the foremost. Things and opportunities don’t come knocking now and then. And neither do they wait for your response. They are as neutral as an untalented actor on a film set. The opportunities come for you and you have to catch them and make the most of it. Everyone must know of it.
Your appropriate response sets up everything and everyone. Yes, they are difficult and you have to push yourselves through it but if it is what you want, then go for it. At first, it may seem the hardest and the most uncomfortable thing you have to do but time will give you your fruits. Here are some tips to help you transition better:
Be mindful of your shortcomings, flaws, and where you think you have work yourself and polish yourself.
Do not be proud. Being ‘mighty’ and ‘proud’ will not get you anywhere but they will only serve as a hindrance in your path to not be a loser.
Being humble makes you grateful for your blessings and helps you be satisfied. It also cancels out greed. You can do it by writing in a journal or a diary that made you happy today or what was you were grateful for.
Read books, journals, self-help books, and quotes about taking things for granted, about motivation and failures, and how to get back up. Quotes are the best way to motivate yourself into being a war machine.
HOW TO STOP BEING A LOSER AND BE A WINNER INSTEAD
Head start into channeling and being a better, refined, person by knowing why winning is important and how to not be a loser is the only thing you want to know.
Knowing why winning is necessary is a reward in itself. You may want it because
It makes people successful and popular.
It guarantees bright future.
It helps in self-growth.
You want to be happy and make your loved ones proud. Knowing that you put a smile on their faces is the best feeling one can cherish.
You love some attention and winning works for you.
Before you start doing anything, know that you asked the question how to stop being a loser? It will keep you motivated, you don’t want to end up lifeless and drained of all your energy again.
To start, take easy, simple and baby steps to your goal. Don’t be hasty. Haste and rushing through won’t give you anything but leave you feeling insatiable which breeds greed and selfishness.
STEPS YOU CAN TAKE NOW TO BE A WINNER
Be goal-oriented: Know your goal. Paste it somewhere where you can easily see it. There is nothing better than being reminded of your goal every single day first thing in the morning.
Be responsible for yourself: Without taking the responsibility of your day off or blaming other people for your problems you won’t do anything. It will set you back by being dependent on people to remind you of your failure.
When you set a goal, you have a responsibility to yourself to see it through. No matter how impossible it may seem, resolve to accomplish it.”
Embrace your failures: It is okay to fail. You are a human and not Clark Kent. You are allowed to make mistakes. Embrace them and yourself when you make such errors. Don’t reprimand or punish yourself for your human mistakes.
“It’s not whether you get knocked down, it’s whether you get up.”
~ Vince Lombardi
Be consistent: Focusing on channeling your thought, passions, and emotions into your work generously helps you. Always know your goal and never stop. Keep at it.
Don’t procrastinate: Laziness has taken so much from us. Our active lifestyles, our quality time with loved ones, and sometimes, even ourselves. We are losing ourselves because of our laziness. We have already lost too much, let’s stop this right now. Don’t lose your goals to it also.
“Never put off till tomorrow what may be done day after tomorrow just as well.”
~ Mark Twain
Do not take things for granted: Taking things for granted is bound to fail. Taking your successes is bound to fail and it is disastrous. Gives way to greed. Better to take things for granted than not. Know the value of everything that you have and do. It is much better this way. Here are some quotes about taking things for granted:
“Feel what it’s like to truly starve, and I guarantee that you’ll forever think twice before wasting food.”
~ Criss Jami, Killosophy
“Wings are like dreams. Before each flight, a bird takes a small jump, a leap of faith, believing that its wings will work. That jump can only be made with rock solid feet.”
~ J.R. Rim
“Life sometimes reminds us that it is sometimes heartless by giving something or someone we really need to someone who does not need or even want them or it.”
~ Mokokoma Mokhonoana
“Happiness is a simple game of lost and found: Lose the things you take for granted, and you will feel great happiness once they are found.”
~Richelle E. Goodrich, Making Wishes
The answer to how not be a loser lies in the most important quality and understanding that life is crazy and so are you. Never stop crazy ideas and gizmos. And never take anything for granted. It is a recipe for disaster. Stop listening to others opinion. Follow your heart. And Keep Yourself Motivated.
Always believe, YOU CAN DO IT.